“To up the odds of survival, leaders at all levels, must become obsessive about change.” “Change must become our norm, not a cause for alarm.”- Tom Peters, Thriving On Chaos, 1987
These were the opening lines of a speech I gave in 1988 on Change. Funny, I must not have been listening to my own words.
I pride myself on being an innovator, a thought leader: of seeing where transformations are needed and helping others through their change process. But, I, like so many of my colleagues, have gotten caught in this whirlwind of economic downturn. I could rant here and say “why me?” But, truthfully, it is not about me. It is… just business as usual. An expected norm.
Tom Peter’s said that being excellent is no longer enough; that
companies people (my word change) need to be perpetually ready to innovate. They must be willing to make continual improvements because the business environment is so competitive. Rather than focusing on cost-cutting efficiencies, these improvements must stress providing customers with value. He predicted, in 1987, that this rapidly changing world – fueled by new technology – would be unpredictable, so companies people must learn how to “thrive on chaos” to survive the turbulent times ahead. And he was right and these are those times.
As I have just learned on Wednesday, even when you do the ‘right’ things, make those constant improvements, show your value, and keep innovating, you can still get caught up in the undertow of corporate unpredictability. So this Social Butterfly, me, has now been tossed aside, or given freedom, depending on how I chose to look at it, from my corporate parent after almost 18 years of service. Ah, the lessons.
Though a constant change agent in my work, I question maybe I was not bold enough, loud enough, social enough, or something, to be of right value to the corporate machine. Every day, in every way, I challenged my coworkers, my company, and myself, to move forward, just like Peter’s told me too. But the truth is, it had very little to do with me. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. Once the shock and the fuzziness of being laid off subsides (it has only been a couple days but I am not the wallowing type so I hope it is soon), I will get grounded and get going. So, let’s look at several steps I plan on taking over the next week:
1. Don’t lose focus
Remember that ‘it is just business, to them.’ Yes, it ticks me off! But it is true. In most cases, when laid off, it is not personal. (That sounds so stupid doesn’t it? Because it sure feels that way right now.) In my case, I think it is about the stock price and how they balance bad sales numbers – they’ve cut and cut everything else, so now all that is left to cut are the workers. There is absolutely nothing I can do about a corporate strategy from where I sit. It is what it is. My job moved to a lower cost country and now, I need to move forward for me.
I need to really get down to the nitty gritty activities that are going to move me into my future and not wait until the dust settles. I think that the key to staying focused is to create a very detailed ‘to do’ list that provides me with practical details and priorities. Spending time every day designing my future is now my priority. That IS my job (and shame on me, it always should have been.)
2. Talk about it
That’s right. It may be embarassing, but I can’t get caught in what the psyhcologist’s call “the dance of denial.” Luckily, I have some trusted friends to listen to me. It is important to engage in conversations with others in similar situations (heck, we don’t know the real numbers but there are about 6,000 of us just this week). Be social. Seek out support both on and off line. (30 Websites to Visit When You Get Laid Off) Find ‘healthy’ vehicles for catharsis, whether exercise, gardening, walking the dogs (that is mine). I think it is best to focus on MY feelings about the lay off and not rant on about the ‘bad’ company (though that is easy to fall into). This needs to be about me – not them. Burning bridges, because of being upset or angry, is not the best path to the future – especially when you are a blogger. Having an outlet is critical to moving on though. This is a loss, it takes time to get over that: anger, fear, depression even, are all normal reactions. I need to be gentle with myself (which isn’t easy for me).
3. Let go of the past as quickly as possible
Generate small, success assured activities, even if it is just grocery shopping. Right now, my self esteem is rocky. I need to know that I can get stuff done. I just read in some magazine that Sheryl Sandberg (Miss Lean In) writes down her ‘to dos’ on a sheet of paper and then when done, tears it out of the notebook and throws it away. I like that, because it is a physical act that celebrates completeness. It is important to create rituals and celebrate closure on things so that I can start to embrace a new future. Just keep putting energy into the future state (this may be a ‘fake it, until you make it’ statement, but I can do it, I have to do it!)
4. Push the limits
Truthfully, I just lost my job and things (other than health) don’t get much worse than that for bread winners. So why not experiment. Identify next steps and go for them. I need to find my moxie, my guts, and push myself to envision that which I really want. Now is the time that I have to forge in a new direction: go back to school or maybe get The Digital Attitude consulting business off the ground ? If not now – when? If not me – who? This could be a great gift – right? As Dorie Clark says in her book Reinventing You: Define Your Brand, Imagine Your Future, ” To survive and thrive, you have to reinvent yourself and move on.” Which takes me to my last point…
5. Reflect and then move on
The one thing we know for sure is change is going to keep coming. I will look back for a moment, do my lessons learned and move on. Integrating this experience into the fabric of my life. Give myself the time and space to reflect and review all the things that got me here and then articulate my vision for what will get me there.
How have you dealt with some of life’s major changes? Any advice?
Keep up the good attitude. See you next blog.
(All the Social Butterfly’s views are her own)
Thriving On Chaos: Handbook for a Management Revolution, Tom Peters, Harper Books, 1987
Life Changes: A Guide to the 7 Stages of Personal Growth, Adams and Spencer. Paraview Press (November 12, 2002)
Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead, Sheryl Sanberg, Knopf; First Edition edition (March 11, 2013)
Reinventing You: Define Your Brand, Imagine Your Future, Dorie Clark, Harvard Business Review Press (April 9, 2013)
12 thoughts on “Laid Off? 5 Attitude Adjustments To Make”
😦 I’m sorry for this situation that has caused you to doubt yourself. Don’t. I know you will continue to thrive and motivate others in another environment.
Thank you so much for your support. Life changing event but definitely a gift and maybe a kick that I have needed for a long time.
I am impressed with your attitude and action plan to rebound quickly. Change is healthy. You seem to have faith in your personal compass This is a good message for all of us looking to advance professionally in the murky waters of corporate strategy.
Thanks Julie. It is not always easy to trust in the universe, but with every change of the wind there comes a new direction.
Don’t doubt yourself. You have valuable and useful skills that will transfer extremely well in many different directions. I’m sure you’ll have good options from which to choose, and you will be successful! My wish for you is that this abrupt, unplanned change will be viewed in hindsight as one of the ‘best’ things for you personally. Your hopeful attitude and personal resiliency will propel you. All the best!
Thank you for the encouragement, Barbara. I am a little wobbly this week, but will get my sea legs soon I hope. I am trying to look at this as a gift, it is just taking sometime to unwrap – Lorian
Lorian, I’m sorry to hear that you were affected by the layoff. You have an amazing attitude, and I truly value your honesty, writing about it here – so refreshing. I know you will see this as an opportunity and move on to better things!
Thank you so much for the support. Since this blog is about being authentic, how could I not be? I don’t know how to be any other way though. Writing about it helps.
I ‘liked’ your post – but, of course, I don’t like that you were let go. I do like that you are talking about it, processing it, exploring it. I believe you are absolutely right – this is not at all about you and your value. This is about being in the wrong place at the wrong time during times of economic downturn and business transformation. I notice your Digital Attitude icon has wings…so I will smile when you can embrace the freedom in what’s happening and float along to the next batch of beautiful fragrant flowers, my friend!
Thank you, Vicki. I am flapping as hard as I can 🙂
We in SWG central Social are in your boat too. Great post. You should join out Google Plus group
Marjorie – Oh No!!!!! This is crazy. How do I join your Google Plus group? Send me the link. Thanks