To make any changes stick it takes 28 days of repetitive practice. To find your social self, I have provided ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT ASSIGNMENTS in many of my posts to help. This page provides the Attitude Adjustment Homework Assignments all in one place to make it easier for you to work through thgem. Just link back to read the post from the title of the assignment.
I am always available to answer your questions or just chat on a topic. – Lorian (aka the Social Butterfly)
Assignment 1-1. What is your vision and purpose? What is it you want to be known for? What practice or expertise is it that you are trying to build? What kind of client relationships do you want? What is your purpose for doing all this?
Assignment 1-2. What are your values and passions? What do you stand for? What is your world view and your personal values? What is your personal belief system? What drives you)?
Assignment 2-1: On at least one sheet of paper, write down the answer to the question
“I am ______________”
I am ….a change agent; innovator; caring; mentor; mother; teacher; project manager; driven….. you get the idea.
Assignment 2-2: Take some of your words and make a WORD CLOUD. You can make your cloud at http://www.wordle.net/create.
Assignment 2-3: Check in with other people to see if they agree with your cloud of expertise and if they would add or delete anything.
Assignment 3-1: Get Connected.
Assignment 4-1: Follow People.* Follow a few people (whether on Twitter, LinkedIn, Connections, what ever your network of choice), whose updates may be of interest to you. You can always ‘unfollow’ them later.
(*Do you need help in how to follow? Write a comment to this post and I can give you quick steps.)0
Assignment 4-2 : Join at least one GROUP or Community of Practice (on any social network site).
Assignment 4-3: Focus 10 minutes – 3 times this coming week on ‘listening’ and feel free to comment if you have something to say.
Assignment 5-1: Identify Your Hard Skills
Take out your notebook and write down all the skills you can think of that relate to you.
I am an expert in (specialty): _____________.
People come to me (I am the ‘go-to’ person) for: _______________.
I am known for the following skills: ___________________________________________________
Assignment 5-2: Identify your Soft Skills
Look at the list of 28 soft skills below and pick out 5 or 10 that you feel are your top soft skills. Put them in an order from strongest to weakest.
(The list is adapted from: List of 28 Soft Skills – Business Professionals, June 2, 2011, Career Success – Ask A Wharton MBA)
- Self awareness – knowing what drives, angers, motivates, embarrasses, frustrates, inspires you
- Emotion management – being able to control unexpected emotions like anger and frustration so you can think clearly and at your optimum.
- Self-confidence – those who believe in themselves have access to “unlimited power” (wisdom from KungFu Panda)
- Stress management – Being able to stay calm and balanced in stressful, overwhelming situations
- Resilience – Ability to bounce back from a misstep in your job or career
- Skills to forgive and forget – Ability to move on without baggage from a past mistake or something in your career that wronged you
- Persistence and Perseverance – Ability to overcome challenging situations and obstacles and maintain the same energy
- Patience – ability to step back in an emergency to think clearly or the ability to pause and wait when you are in a rush or want to rush others.
- Communication skills – skills to listen and articulate your ideas in writing and verbally to any audience in a way where you are heard and you achieve the goals you intended with that communication. This is also known as interpersonal communication skills
- Presentation skills – ability to maintain attention and achieve your desired outcome from presenting to an audience
- Facilitating skills – ability to coordinate and solicit well represented opinions and feedback from a group with diverse perspectives to reach a common, best solution.
- Interviewing skills – ability to sell your skills as an interviewee or accurately assess other’s ability or extract the needed information as an interviewer
- Selling skills – this is not just for people in sales. This is the ability to build buy-in to an idea, a decision, an action, a product, or a service
- Meeting management skills – at least 50% of meetings today in corporate america are a waste of time. This is the skill to efficiently and effectively reach productive results from leading a meeting
- Influence / persuasion skills – ability to influence perspective or decision making but still have the people you influence think they made up their own mind.
- Team work skills – ability to work effectively with anyone with different skill sets, personalities, work styles, or motivation level
- Management skills – ability to motivate and create a high performing team with people of varied skills, personalities, motivations, and work styles.
- Leadership skills – ability to create and communicate vision and ideas that inspires others to follow with commitment and dedication.
- Skills in dealing with difficult personalities – Ability to work well or manage someone whom you find difficult
- Skills in dealing with difficult situations – Ability to stay calm and still be effective when faced with an unexpected difficult situation.
- Ability to think / communicate on your feet (under pressure) – ability to articulate thoughts in an organized manner even when you are not prepared for the question or situation you are in
- Networking skills – ability to be interesting and interested in business conversations that motivates people to want to be in your network.
- Interpersonal relationship skills – ability to build trust, find common ground, have empathy, and ultimately build good relationships with people you like or in positions of power/influence.
- Negotiation skills – ability to understand the other side and reach a win-win resolution that you find favorably, satisfies both sides, and maintains relationships for future dealings
- Mentoring / coaching skills – ability to provide constructive wisdom, guidance, and/or feedback that can help others further their career development
- Organizing skills – ability to organize business gatherings to facilitate learning, networking, or business transactions
- Self-promotion skills – ability to subtly promote your skills and work results to people of power or influence in your organization. This will build your reputation and influence.
- Savvy in handling office politics – office politics is a fact of life in corporate america. This is the ability to understand and deal with office politics so you can protect yourself from unfairness as well as further your career.
6. Do You Want A 25th Hour In Your Day? 4 Things To Get You There
Assignment 6-1: Know where you spend your time: Keep a time log.
There are 168 hours in a week. No more, no less. Do you know how you spend your time?
- Over the next few days (a week would be great), I want you to track your time in 30 minute blocks (or at least as often as you remember). How much time do you spend eating lunch, watching TV, surfing the web, and at your job? You may find that tracking your time uncovers some surprises.
- Add up the totals. Be honest. This is only for you. If you Tweet 5 times a day at 5 minutes each time, that adds up.
Assignment 6-2: Change your language
- I challenge you, at least for the next week, to erase the phrase “I don’t have time” from your vocabulary. Replace it with “it’s not a priority.” Then after that week, move on to Assignment 3.
Assignment 6-3: Make time for your priorities
- Take the time log from Assignment 1 and put the actions into an order of importance.
- Schedule your priorities into your daily calendar, including social media time. Whether you use Lotus Notes, Outlook, or a paper DayTimer, you need to carve out blocks to accomplish your priorities. If you don’t, you can’t complain that you don’t have time for them, since you did not give them any importance.
Assignment 6-4: Acknowledge the Trade Offs
Time is finite. What you do in that time are your choices. The order you act on your choices are your priorities.
Since I can not find that 25th hour in the day, I must partition my day so that I can accomplish the important things. The trade offs are the things that I have to let go of. The things that will fall of the list.
- Look at your time log from Assignment 1 and make sure it includes most everything you do in a week
- Look at your priority list from Assignment 3 and make sure the choices on this list match where you are going in your life
- What happens when you drop the bottom activity off your list?
- If you were to add an activity, what would you trade?